Keeping In Touch

This past week I saw an old friend from college, Ashley. It was really fun to get together and reminisce about old times. The sad part was that I hadn't talked to Ashley in probably three years. Three years. We joked about how we felt like we've kind of kept in touch because we see each other on Instagram all the time. But that totally doesn't count!

I am terrible at keeping in touch. I mean, really. I wouldn't be surprised if I've made a lot of people feel like I don't really like them simply because I do not do a good job of keeping in touch. This is one of those times when the thought doesn't count. I actually think of keeping in contact with my friends and acquaintances often, usually while I'm driving to work. I'm driving to work and I think of so-and-so and I'm like, "I miss so-and-so! I wonder how they're doing?" But I never actually get around to acting on that thought. Which kind of makes me a terrible person in a lot of ways because so-and-so, of course, has no idea I thought of them or that I even care.

One reason why I fail at relationships in my life is that I am in a very busy, transition faze in my life that I keep thinking is going to end soon but just won't. I'm starting to wonder if this is just it. Will all this instability and uncertainty in my life ever resolve? Yes. Yes, it will. But at the rate I'm going, I won't have any friends by the time it does.

One day, while driving to work, I finally realized my fate of a friendless future and it was very sad. I realized that as much as relationships and people are important to me, I was failing at my own advice. I realized that I really need to put more importance on the relationships in my life. I'm still trying to figure out a balance of being able to keep my life and my friendships together, but I'm trying to be more intentional with my relationships.

Life is busy and confusing and disappointing and exciting but it's a whole lot more fun with people to share it with. So keep in touch!